Please don't throw up when you read this next part...
Dustin and I had never had a fight before wedding planning. For two years if we disagreed on something, we communicated our feelings perfectly. We still communicate well, however there were things that we should have communicated better.
Right after the engagement, stress began. One, it was hard to read what our parents really wanted from us and two, people will tell you to do what you want, but complain afterwards. Number two really affected our relationship. Even before becoming engaged, we discussed it and the options for a while. We just talk out things before deciding them. But then we would receive calls from people asking if we have thought things through, and the stress would build.
Eventually stress got to the best of us. I had worked for hours getting ideas together, and Dustin felt as though I wasn't including him. And I felt as though he would just tune me out. Now we didn't yell at each other, but we had to seriously talk (I cried because I wear my emotions on my sleeve). But we figured it out and so I would only be allowed to discuss one main planning matter a day, and I would make sure I worded it to where I was asking instead of telling.
Also, I have had to learn how to let him have his things, and me mine. I'm terrified of being a bridezilla, but I can be very particular about how I like things. I need to include him where he wants to be, and let him have things that he likes. Sounds so simple, but it's not.
Even though there is stress, the best moment in planning a wedding is when you decide something. It's those moments when you realize how much you love the other person. It's like you fall even more in love.
So all in all, learn to compromise. Communicate your feelings every day without the blame game. Finally decide things and fall in love all over again.
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